Monday, April 14, 2014

Suffering


 
I walk into the hospital room not knowing what to expect.  She is in pain… incredible pain… excruciating pain.  Her husband stands by her side doing all he can, but nothing helps.  She is doubled over in pain.  Page the nurse.  It takes 10 minutes for the nurse to come to the room.  The nurse leaves to call the doctor.  More pain… agonizing pain.  Another ten minutes passes before the nurse returns.  She reports that no new pain medicine can be administered for another 20 minutes.  Can’t they see that she is in pain?  Don’t they care?  Surly in this day and age there is a pill or a shot or an IV drip that can make this all go away.  But there isn’t, at least that can be authorized immediately based on a limited diagnosis.  Her pain just gets worse.  Her husband grows more anxious, more tense, more frustrated, more angry, more powerless.  I pray.

The noted writer Evelyn Underhill says that pain plunges like a sword through all creation.  It may be physical, it may be emotional, it may be spiritual, or it may even be intellectual.  No matter how it manifests itself, pain becomes suffering and, in this world, suffering is everywhere and it is unavoidable.   It plunges like a sword through all creation.  Each of us here this morning is either suffering personally or is deeply concerned about the suffering of another.  David Rensberger says that suffering drinks up what you have, and then asks for more.  It is one of life’s constants.

More than any other human experience, suffering has the capacity to slay the illusion that we control the course of events in our lives.  Suffering challenges our idol of self-sufficiency, inviting us to recognize that we are not now – and never were – calling the shots.  It forces us to confess that we are not always in control and to admit that we are in fact vulnerable. 

Suffering offends not only our pretension to control what happens, but even more, our capacity to comprehend.  That life should be reasonable – more, that we should be able to grasp its rationality – is a demand deeply entrenched within our humanity.  Yet with suffering we brush up against a life-process that we did not create, would not choose, and cannot comprehend.  In that hospital room that night there was just no way to manage what was happening and no way make sense of it.

As we hear again the story of Jesus’ Passion we realize how even Jesus had little control over the events of his life and we run up against our limited ability to comprehend why such an atrocity takes place.  And his suffering is made more difficult for us to face because of the strong tradition in the Christian faith that holds he went through this ordeal on our account.  We are the ones who shout “Crucify him.”  It is for our sins that he died.  It is a tradition that inspires guilt and shame, which at times can be appropriate.  

Remorse is the right response to those things we have done that we ought not to have done and to those things we have not done that we ought to have done.  But when we understand this to be the only purpose to Jesus’ suffering, it then says something very damaging to us in our suffering.  It suggests that we are getting what we deserve.   Understanding our experience of suffering only in this way scars us spiritually and emotionally. 

Another tradition of our faith holds that suffering contains some hidden divine spark; an idea we sometimes advance when we say, “Well, God must have a reason for this” or “God must be trying to teach me something.”  This perspective, taken to an extreme, has encouraged some actually to seek out suffering, but there is absolutely nothing in the gospels to suggest that Jesus ever deliberately sought such experiences.  Indeed, he seems to do everything possible to alleviate them: healing the sick, forgiving troubled souls, reconciling the outcast, and comforting the sorrowful.

From today’s reading of the Passion we see nothing to suggest that Jesus deserved what he got, nor do we see that he had anything to learn from it.  What we see is the impetuous for a third tradition within our faith.  Jesus does not stand passively accepting abuse, rather he is noble and without fear, facing his enemy with courage and compassion.  Jesus does this because he is rooted in a goodness deeper than the suffering.  This third tradition in our faith holds that Jesus gives us a model for how to endure the suffering we experience. 

Based on his experience in pastoral ministry, Robert Morris, an Episcopal priest in New Jersey, has observed two primary ways people endure suffering.  There are those who are thankful and there are those who are victims.  The thankful people see life as a series of challenges to be faced.  For them, suffering is something to be dealt with, lived through, learned from, and redeemed.  The victims see life as a tale of repeated, undeserved woe.  They think of themselves as beset and besieged in a world of endless tests and trials.  They meet every ordeal in life with resistance, resentment, and downright outrage.

Morris describes in detail one particular discussion he had with a woman in the parish.  She had lost a son and then shortly thereafter fell and had to have a hip replaced.  The surgery gave way to chronic pain.  Her husband, who was used to being served, made no attempt to care for her, let alone amend the demands he placed on her.  For years the woman had been upbeat and positive, but all of this was just too much.  She now complained constantly.   

Meeting with her priest, she tearfully confessed that she felt terrible about the darkness she now brought to life.  The suffering she endued from pain and loss and disappointment was just too much for her to bear.  Morris found himself reminding the woman of Jesus’ teaching to love our enemies and to bless those who curse us.  “Pain,” he said, “is now a deadly enemy of your soul, not just your body.  Every time it comes, why don’t you bless it instead of curse it?” 

This was quite a rigorous demand to place on the woman and Morris would have understood if she had thrown him out because of it.  But she gasped, sat up straight, dried her eyes, thought for a minute, and then said, matter-of-factly, “Very well then; that’s what I’ll do.”  And so she did.  She arose, cared for her husband, and the pains slowly receded.  More importantly, her spirits turned toward accepting her life as it was, with blessing rather than cursing.  In the midst of suffering, she had ceased to be its victim.  Her heart had opened again to a larger world.

How we face suffering determines whether pain, sorrow, difficulty, deprivation, or challenge become part of our soul’s shrinking or it’s stretching.  Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ suffered so that we might know how to suffer.  He showed us that there is a way to stay rooted in God’s kingdom when the ways of this worldly kingdom do everything possible to bring you down.

So in the hospital room I prayed; first, quietly on my own, and then aloud for the three of us.  The simple act of prayer reminded us that God’s goodness was with us, even in such a terrible moment.  No sooner than I said ‘amen’ the nurse appeared with new medication.  A few minutes later the pain subsided to a manageable level. 

I don’t know what it would be like to worship a god who did not know, who could not know, what it is like to suffer.  Why would you even pray to such a being?  How could such a god understand our need?  Today we remember again that Jesus suffered pain.  He suffered not as one without hope.  He suffered, but what He suffered only served to open His heart even wider to us in our need.  It only served to pioneer a way for us to follow when the blade of the sword that plunges through all creation touches our life.

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